July 5, 2008
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New developments
My dear dear, hilarious friend Avenuetothereal (the artist formerly known as AmandasBiggestFan) has reopened my eyes to another fact of why America is the greatest farcing country in the world. Aside from our kick ass military men and women, our freedom for all who come here and the fact that we let all (even the dumbasses) have freedom of speech (except the Christians)…. The other reason America is awesome:
We birthed CHUCK NORRIS! Oh yeah.Okay, I’m sorry about the confusing nature of the post yesterday. We didn’t want to post anything online until we’d had the chance to tell our immediate family.Now that both of our parents know, I don’t mind posting the issue here. It’s nothing bad, it just kinda confuses my plans for the next few years.
We’re pregnant.
So by now, there will be no question about our religious preferences. It’s pretty darn obvious we’re Catholic. But that’s what happens when a husband comes back from deployment. He waits till his wife is asleep and put’s a baby in through his wife’s bellybutton because he doesn’t believe she’s been busy enough for the past six months without him. So he gives her extra work to make up for all the time he was gone. The military totally supports this occurance because they see thousands of extra babies born 9 months after each deployment returns and they don’t do anything to stop it. That’s proof.
The reason I’m so concerned/worried/stressed/trying to give it to God is because we’re getting out of the military in five months. We’ll be moving back to my hometown, we’ll have no health insurance, no jobs, nothing. A little nerve wracking, yes. As James3_1 said, “You can’t fully trust in God sometimes until he’s taken away all of your assurances.” I know things will work out and I’m confident in our ability to provide for our family, it’ll just be a little stressful until that door opens for us. I’m very excited about a new baby, but all we had planned doesn’t include baby number three. So for the past few days, we’ve been in the works to renegotiate all we had planned.
The thing that kills me is the reaction I’ve gotten from some family members.
They seem dissappointed. This killed me to hear their words. (something about irresponsible and population control.) I was well aware of the inconvenient timing of this baby and the poor insurance situation we’d gotten ourselves into. But when our own flesh and blood responds almost negatively to a precious new life, I get upset. I was too proud to let one of them hear me cry so I waited until I was off the phone. Blame it on my budding pregnant hormones, but it really cut me deep. Population control is garbage. I’m a genius and my husband is gorgeous so I’m all about procreating. We’re financially responsible, loving parents who have taught our children right from wrong. We have no debts of any sort and don’t put a drain on society or government handouts. How is that irresponsible? *sighs* I don’t know why I’m justifying myself here. I don’t think they even read my xanga on a frequent basis.So that’s the spot we’ve found ourselves in. What’s ironic is I didn’t even know I was pregnant when I wrote that abortion post the other day.
- I’m not in a convenient time in my life to have a third baby
- I’m certainly still busy enough with my eight month old son and my two year old daughter
- I’m about to have to find/start a new job in five months
- I’m sick and tired of kid cartoons.
I STILL disagree with abortion. See how stubborn I am?Much love to you all.
Comments (37)
Is that you one the background??? That picture is soo awesome!!!!
@purplepixiepoo -
Hey Poo! ( I think that’s a funny nickname) Yes ma’am it is me. I’m taking guitar lessons. I’m also busting my butt trying to redesign my page but it’s becoming difficult. I might have to steal your genius if I can’t get this darn thing working in the next few hours. Your page is always done cute.
I love you too Amanda.. :] I hope everything turns out fine. I’m sending you positive thoughts.. I’m really sorry that you feel like you’re not ready for the baby. But oh well. tell me how things go.
Well, we do need population control, but happy accidents happen!
@life_by_us -
AvenueToTheReal hates that part of my new username! Hahaha because of the manure feel I think. Oh well. I’m glad you like my site. I’m redoing it right now because I learned that others need to scroll width-wise to see everything. Do you need to that in my site? I hope not because I think that’s shitty.
Love the background.
Pregnant huh? Well, that’s way better than what I was thinking. I’ve pretty much given up on my family, they always let me know how much I’ve disappointed them, but I’m the only one who has done anything with my Indiana life (got away from there, got a good job). Don’t let them get you down, yes a baby does change up any type of future plans we might have, but remember it’s not for us to determine our future. The family may be upset right now because of your husband is getting out of the military and that is all they can see, they are seeing the bad that could happen. I’m sure that has crossed your mind, but you’re bringing another precious life into this world. Look at the two little ones you have and how much you love them and how much they make you laugh…that is what makes it worth everything.
Everything will work out, you gotta have faith.
@adifferentkindofbeautiful -
I understand not going crazy and having a million kids and then living off of welfare programs. But My kids and I are environmentally responsible, we recycle, we eat organics and have proper manners. I feel as long as you’re doing your part to take care of your children and the Earth they live in, it’s not considered irresponsible. Having twenty drug addicted babies in a slum where they have lice in their hair and I buy cigarettes with my welfare cash… well that’s a little different.
@iknowHimdou -
As always, thanks for making me smile. I love your pat on the back because you always seem to have the right words to say. I guess girls always want the approval of their father. When we don’t get it, it’s a little painful.
@life_by_us -
Now that we know what we do about the world, and how many people there are (almost 7 billion!) trying to live off of this planet, to me it’s irresponsible and selfish of people in our generation to purposefully have more than three children… especially when so many are orphaned. But you don’t even have three yet, and it wasn’t as if you planned this, so I can’t believe they wouldn’t support you.
My sister wants five kids and doesn’t give a damn about the environment- quite honestly I don’t support her at all. I love my nieces and nephews but her having two more so the youngest one has someone to play with… I want to slap her!
(it would be different if she was like you, I wish more people were here)
@life_by_us -
One thing I’ve learned. High expectations from family are most often due to the fact that as a society we’ve come to the wrong conclusion about the roles we have to our children. It seems we have been led to believe as parents, that the parental role is more important than the spousal role. In other words, we are here to be disciplinarians, guides, and instructors to our children their entire life, instead of guiding them while they are in our home, and putting the greater focus on the spousal relationship. We seem to think our kids are kids forever, but our husband is just temporary, or just the lawn service man who doesn’t leave at night. The Word says of the young man that he will leave his Father, and Mother, and be joined to his wife. That those two shall become one flesh. It goes to say then, that at that point, the Father and Mother are no longer who the man ( or aMANda ) should seek to please. Parents, ( and this means you too silly) should raise their children to enable them to lead productive, responsible, caring lives. Their lives! Apart from obvious wrongs, crimes, etc, the parents really should no longer have a say regarding the lives of their adult children. Does any of this make any sense, or am I just rambling again? What I am trying to say is it’s understandable that their “disappointment” is painful, but my posit is that they’ve no place to be disappointed anymore as you are now joined to your husband, and he to you, so the emotion of disappointment is removed from their rights as they no longer are to be “in control” of your lives.
let the attacks begin
I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO happy for you guys! I know this was unplanned, but I know it’s an unplanned GIFT!, not an unplanned and added trouble. Have you considered that the plans you had been making were perhaps not God’s plans and desires for you, and in His incredible mercy did He not only steer you away from them, but He also gave you a token of His guiding Love for you in the process? It’s like car shopping. You decide on a Pinto, and the salesman is actually honest with you telling you it’s crap, and then giving you the keys to a 1968 Shelby fastback, sans sales tax! YEAH BABY!
later gator
I understand about needing the approval of your dad. Mine wasn’t even around growing up very much and to this day as a grown woman, I still seek his approval. It’s just something we are wired with, I suppose.
Have a great day, Amanda!
@adifferentkindofbeautiful - Just curious, regarding a “need” for population control. What happens when mainstays societal ideologies infer that population control includes people who hold traits, or similarities, or attitudes, or demeanors, etc that you hold/have? It’s great to support something when you are not being the one controlled. What if population control were the law of the land, but unfortunately you were included in the list of ones who should not be around? Personally, not knowing you even slightly, I am still glad that wasn’t the case. I don’t know how many babies are born to unfit mothers and become criminals, or drug addicts, etc, but I know there is at least one baby who was born to a crack addicted mother who didn’t become that. I know that in retrospect. I didn’t know it then, I know it now. Get it?
( This is not a hateful, or intending to start a fight, kind of post. Just couldn’t not bring this to mind…
When I first found out you were pregnant, I was worried. NOT because I don’t want another grandchild, or something stupid lke population control, but because I was worried how it would effect MY baby – HER health, HER emotions, HER plans. Of course I’m thrilled about my new grandchild(daughter), it just took awhile to process the news since I knew it was not the most convenient of times. But God does not always give us gifts at convenient times This precious new life is a great gift and we will love her (I just know its a girl) or him (if its not), as much as the other two. And although your Father hasn’t said it, he will love the baby too. He just needs time to process this. He may not have given his approval when you talked to him, but he really didn’t say anything all that negative either. You just know how he thinks. He tried to do as Thumper’s mother says and not say anything at all. It will come in time. He loves you and you know it. He has loved you since the first day he set eyes on you. And I have loved you even before that. You are my blessing from God. Thats why I named you “Amanda”. It Means “blessed”.
population control shmopulation control. YAAAYY! Congrats! Etc.!
Congrats! I’m sure it will work out just fine with jobs/insurance. (Your Mom and Dad sound a lot like mine, lol)
Iam so tired of hearing about the “overpopulated earth” If you took the state of Texas and built ,side by side,1300hundred sq ft houses and filled the state, you could put four people in each house–Yes all 7 million of them. Do the math. There are plenty of resources on this earth they just are terrible mismanaged.
God has given you a blessing of a new soul to love and one day return to Him. You are a wonderful mother and wife and He will guide you though all things if you just trust. Your Pepaw says is will be beautifl since it will look like him.
We love you all daring.
“Lord, keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth”
Maybe YOUR child will be the next Chuck Norris!
Wow! That’s quite a change in plans, but it’s okay! (With your last post, I was worrying something happened to the already-born kids.) You are one of the strongest, most dependable people I know. You were wanting to have a billion kids anyway, and who better to manage a herd? You can think of this one as the kid you’re having to replace the ones I’m not having. ^_^
I love you guys to death, and can’t wait for you to move to SA so I can go visit you!
congratulations! i’m so sorry about the way your family took the news. i know how you feel, no matter what the circumstances a baby being brought into the world is a miracle and should be celebrated as such. and a two year old’s food consumption occurs by osmosis through the entire body (not just the face) but especially the front of their shirts!
I think it’s better we have more of you (but smaller) running around over populating this planet. I can think of a few people who’s gene pool needs to be killed off, like right now!
CONGRATS ON MAKING BABIES!!! Barry White and his impregnating voice would be proud!
@AvenueToTheReal -
You’re damn straight it will be!
@Lithium98 -
*laughs* Odd wording but it made me laugh. You win.
@James3_1 -
Um, but i went shopping on Tuesday and all I got was an 03 Ford Taurus.(how unique…) Where the heck are you browsing at man? =)
@Circeo -
You know, if you ever *did* decide to procreate they would be freaking adorable….Like their mommy ^_^
@lesannejenk -
Wow, lady! I haven’t heard from you in ages. Thanks for the uplifting words. Hope all is well!
@life_by_us - Hey, you know what you can do with an 03 Taurus that no other car owner can? yeah, me neither. but I heard they were super safe!
Actually, I loved the Taurus when they had that body style. But you had to get that blue color they had. Tell me you got the blue…
as to where I am browsing.. well that is simple. http://www.dream-on-nicholas-cage-wanna-be.guffaw
( I wonder how many ppl will actually try that “link”
@life_by_us -
Half the stuff I say has the weirdest wording ever. It’s not that I can’t word it right, it’s that I’m just too lazy to go back and change it.
assurances is not assurances
that’s a Thai word we always say coz nothing in the world can be assured
i would like to tell you that…sometimes family members or people, well, not sometimes they never every stand in ur place or walk in ur shoes and it’s ur family , ur life…if in Thai i would say…
they didn’t live on your head so what’s the matter with them?
irresponsible? i think they don’t have any irresponsible for what they have said…it’s immature to get their nose in anyone’s business even if they’re relative
that’s why my Dad kept our family away from fucking relative of ours lol
there’s no good …not that they support nor help? they always push u deep in the ground waiting for the world to swallow you
another thing i have to say is if they said you’re irresponsible so your husband…i don’t wanna blame him and either you do…coz all i can see is U.S. military to be blamed that made your man missed you too much…and i don’t think they care coz deep inside they might wish to have more babies to grown up and waste lives in war they never wish for
anyway, it’s not like you were 16 y.o. (not to mention Jamie Lynn Spears or Juno lol) and not that you’re not married neither now you’re responsible for the third child for not abort him/her away…
i’m not Catholic so i don’t wanna comment about religion thing although i’m sometimes itchy to say but i know it sounds bad to say what i never known deeply before , right?
after all, someone might think it was a real big mistake but all i wanna tell you is congrat for new baby and wish you good luck with everything
one last word : we never known what future holds us but don’t think what you have is already planned coz assurances is not assurances
“You’ll never walk alone”- Liverpool FC slogan
(i’m not Liverpool fan, i’m Chelsea fan but i love this slogan
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@old_and_cranky -
i agreed with this hehe. the world is mismanaged …really
About “overpopulated earth” even my Dad said i don’t have to have any child coz the world is too much for it now and the child will only live in the worse and worse environment…
i guess it’s true but i’ll keep my some good gene to be inherited …may be someday i’ll give it a try with a right guy xD i’m just 19 and lots of thing to do
anyway “overpopulated earth” would be decrease if there was a greatest storm, flood, earthquake, tsunami …in China…glad that they have law to only have one child per household…but still…it’s the biggest country of the world…even if lots of earthquake they can still survive some!!!
and Thailand isn’t much better…somebody is good-for-nothing … i’m waiting for my country to be apart into 6 countries so soon and get it over with…they are suck
i still cant believe you have no health insurance or any fund that can help you from government or something like that
don’t let it get you down!! you’re doing great..and even though i just know you from a few entry i know you are strongest!!
sorry about bad language though… i’m just into it too much! i just don’t want you to lost faith and self-esteem
were gonna have to get more strollers!!!LOL everything will work out just fine!!! i love you, and cant wait until you are back here!!!
@starrynite45 -
*laughs* Your english is cute. You are always welcome here, I’m glad to have made a new friend. Thanks for the kind words.
Congratulations, and best wishes for your family and the bun-in-the-oven!
I really hope everything works out for you.
…odd question: What’s your husband’s MOS? Maybe he can get a specialty job in that field that will include benefits? Good luck!
First off, congrats (I hadn’t seen this post yet when I posted my last comment to you). I’m a huge believer in the idea that God only gives us as much as we can handle and I’m sure you guys can handle this. I’m sorry that some of your family members haven’t been that supportive. That’s really horrible. Hopefully with a little bit of time, they’ll realize that this is actually a good thing (which it most definitely is). Know that you have a lot of support here!
@life_by_us -
hehe you’re welcome everytime! have a good day!
Life happens when you’re living… congrats on the new life growing inside ya…family can be/are strange people…I know…
Sometimes the best things in life come to us at the most incovenient time though… I know this in no way allay the fears of insecurity you may have, but…keep doing whatcha’ll doin…
congrats for the baby even though it is unexpected. I hope things look up for you! I know it is stressful, but try to make the most of it. Another little baby to love! best of luck
The great John Lennon once said, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” When you have kids, you live by those words. Congrats on the new baby. Everything will work out for the best, you’ll see.
YAY for babies!!!! Boulat and I do want to try and plan when our next one comes, but we’ll take them as they come. WE were definitely surprised when I got pregnant only four days after the wedding. Hopefully we’ll be expecting just before he commissions.
Harumph on people who don’t love babies!! You and Derek make beautiful kids. Keep up the good work. The world needs more Catholics any way :0) You guys are always in our prayers. Take care of yourself and enjoy pregnancy all over again!
Love,
Michy :0)
@front_desk_michy - Wanna hear something sadistic? I’m praying for twins. I know God will give me what He wants me to have. But I want them SO BAD!